Lauryn Hill says, self-love happens when you “Conquer the enemy within yourself.” The enemy within yourself is a consciousness that makes you believe you are inferior, messed-up, sick, deranged. My son Micah wrote a song (lyrics below), while singing in the shower, “I Know My Worth:”
I Know My Worth
I know my worth, I’m not my past;
Even though my mind tries to tell me I’m last;
But, when you know who and who’s you are;
You trust in the mighty hand of God;
God will maintain, God will sustain;
Strengthen and build;
Just stay in God’s will;
Remember who you are;
Remember your worth;
I know my worth!
It took years for Micah to change his thoughts to conquer that inner enemy. It’s a daily battle for most of us — that is why asking God to give us THIS DAY our daily bread is imperative — this bread is the Bread of life (a food that does not spoil) – God’s Spirit, God’s Presence, and God’s Light. “Self-love, that is deeply seeded, deeply planted, produces love fruit.” God knows, we need love fruit — because love fruit inspires, heals, and transforms lives. So, “become your ‘best-est’ and kindest friend … love the real you, embrace the process of becoming your best you, give it your best try every day, and when you fall, forgive yourself, get up, brush yourself off, and get back in the business of loving you! In doing this, you will be able to extend real love to others!”
How do you SELF-LOVE, when church and society, from podiums and pulpits and newsrooms across America and the World, tell you that your human being, your created being, your state of being, your unique fingerprint, is hated by God and that God has no place or fellowship with human beings that are NOT white, wealthy, and heterosexual (straight)? How does a child and adult-child cope with the abusive agony felt when rejected by family and friends during social-emotional and cognitive formative years?
Choose to be Courageous! Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and Bayard Rustin (an openly gay, civil rights activist) are pictured above. These men worked side-by-side during the Civil Rights Movement (the 1950s and 1960s). However, Bayard Rustin is historically known for his role as chief strategist for the greatest nonviolence demonstration for freedom recorded in human history – The 1963 March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom. There, on this national stage, at the Abraham Lincoln Memorial, King declared to an in-person audience of over 250,000 supporters, and across airways to millions of others in America and around the world, that “I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live up to its creed. “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal … I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but the content of their character.” Bayard Rustin is to be commended for his courage/character to self-love in an unfriendly environment; and for overcoming immense adversity to produce love fruit – The Civil Rights Act of 1964.
Choose to Self-Love! Dr. Wayne Dyer (homeless as a child and youth to become a New York Times’ Best Selling Author and well-known motivational speaker) says, “Change your Thoughts and Change your Life.” Choose to transform your thoughts and transcend bigoted thoughts of church and society.
Therefore, no matter how difficult and threatening, choose to change your thoughts, choose to be courageous and transcend bigotry, and live and practice truth, you will be glad you did, because Self-Love is the beginning of enlightenment; and produces life-changing love fruit.